Pine View Public School students Victoria Quist and Kean Patrick perform in the musical Bullies Anonymous sharing a lighter message on the seriousness of bullying.
If you are being bullied, you may feel lonely, unhappy, and afraid. You may not want to go to school or outside. It's very important to seek help when dealing with a bully. Talk to another adult you trust: a teacher, principal or school counsellor. If the bullying is physical or violent, you can ask the adult not to reveal your name.
Below are some tips to help you deal with bullying:
Talk to an adult and tell your parents/guardian as soon as possible.
Ignore bullies. Pretend you didn't hear them. Don't even look at them. Walk right past them if you can. The goal of bullies is to make you upset. Don't give them the satisfaction. Even if you're feeling really hurt, don't let it show. You can talk about or write down your reactions later.
Respond to bullies evenly and firmly.
If you can, turn a comment into a joke. Example: The bully says, "Stupid outfit!" You say: "Thanks! I'm glad you noticed."
Remove yourself from the situation. Walk away or run if you have to. Go to a place where an adult is present.
Remember that you are not the one with the problem. It's the bully who has the problem.
If you're being called names or teased, imagine that you're inside a huge fish tank filled with white fog. The fog swallows up insults before they reach you. Nothing touches you. Practice by thinking of the worst things a bully can say to you, then letting the fog eat them up.
Keep a journal about bullying incidents and how they make you feel, as well as bullying that happens to other people. Fill a journal with all the things you like about yourself, your plans for the future, etc.
How to Prevent Future Bullying
Don't walk alone. Travel with at least one other person whenever you can.
Avoid unsupervised areas of the school. Make sure you're not alone in the locker room or bathroom.
Avoid places where bullying happens. Take a different route to and from school. Leave a little earlier or later to avoid the bully.
Sit near the bus driver on the school bus or walk with a teacher to classes.
Don't bring expensive things or money to school.
Label your belongings with permanent marker in case they are stolen.
Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up straight, and make eye contact.
Brainstorm bully comebacks ahead of time, and practice them in the mirror. That way you'll have them ready when you need them.
Each school in the Renfrew County District School Board (RCDSB) has its own bulling procedure and report forms. We do not tolerate bullying and we take bullying incidents seriously by documenting them on report forms and following procedures to eliminate the behaviour and protect our students. You can contact the school principal by visiting Find a School for more information.
Below are sample forms for reporting bullying incidents in our schools.
The International Day of Pink is a day of action, created when a youth in a high school in Cambridge, Nova Scotia was bullied because he wore a pink shirt to school. Hundreds of his peers stood up to the bullying and came to school wearing pink to show support for diversity and an end to discrimination, gender-bullying and homophobia.
Many RCDSB schools will celebrate a Day of Pink on April 10, 2013 or on an alternate day of the year by wearing pink to school to show their commitment to being open minded, understanding of differences and respecting of one another.
Change our World - part of the Centre ontarien de prévention des agressions (COPA) and the Ontario Teachers' Federation's (OTF) provincial project Safe@School, Change Our World supports students and adults in changing the way we think, act and treat one other.
COPA - a provincial Francophone organization providing skills, tools and resources to foster safe, strong and free schools and communities in Ontario.
PBSKids.org - an article appropriate for elementary students with tips and suggestions for handling bullying incidents.
Rick Mercer - a Canadian icon whose rants on bullying, homophobia and teen suicide reach large audiences every year. Follow on Twitter.
Safe at School - a provincial initiative by the Ontario Teachers' Federation (OTF), the Centre ontarien de prévention des agressions (COPA) and funded by the Ontario Ministry of Education, the site is designed for Ontario teachers to foster safe, strong and free schools and communities.
Stop a Bully- provides assistance to any student who is a victim or witness of severe bullying in any school in Canada. Allows students to safely report the details to school officials without risk of becoming a target themselves. Follow on Twitter.